But Women are not logical creatures when it comes to dating. If you say such things, that shows you are very into her, you are not confident enough, you are needy, you are jealous etc How about telling them 'don't play games with me' when they are obviously playing games with you? It tells them you just lost the game. I wish I can go over the rules with them, sign it together and get notarized Quote:. Originally Posted by Oxy Moronovich. Originally Posted by yongyong. I wish I can go over the rules with them, sign it together and get notarized.
Well there are women you can talk that way. I am sure she was very attracted to you from the beginning. I was just saying you should assume their interest level by how they get in touch with you. I prefer talking directly like you but from my experience and watching how people communicate, I don't think it's the right way especially for beginning stage.
I guess I was not confident enough, needy, jealous, etc. Women are not logical creatures period. Asking a woman to initiate an equal amount of contact is asking little. Like I said, if a woman has a problem with me wanting this then we're not compatible. There are plenty of women like my current GF who are understanding enough to go along with my preferences. I don't want women spineless women who hate initiating. OK, good to know. I'm not one of these people who needs "mystery" to amplify my interest, and I prefer it when the guy contacts me every day.
And yeah, he has no doubt that I'm happy to hear from him when he does. There's one guy who's been calling me almost every day, and I feel fonder of him than the others - because I know more about his daily life and what's on his mind, and he's making it clear he cares about what's going on in my life, too.
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The one who takes longer to call, I feel like the connection is kinda dropped during the days I don't talk to him, and I feel a little colder toward him when he does. Used to be a lot. These days not at all other than to ask for the next date. More contact once exclusive.
If a man is truly interested in getting to know us, girls. They should have the urge to contact us everyday. I love to hear from them everyday, but if they don't, I would assume they are not really into me or not really interested in getting to know me more.
I will find it odd if they are not exerting effort to know what I am up to in my daily life. I will start to lose power and interest.
But then again, men are really different to each one, some guys are not really into calling and texting every day and some are. Some prefer to talk more in person or when you are out together but will stay speechless when you are not together. Last gal I tried to date, I told upfront that I was looking for communication and no games. I call you, you call me back. The most I could get out of her was a text, when I called. No response at all to an email, post first date, giving her my real email address. She told me we needed to reschedule our second date, by text. Texted a response to my call to set up another time.
It was all unacceptable and far too vague. I need more communication than that, if only out of respect. She got dropped from my efforts. I don't believe in games when it comes to talking to someone. If I want to call, I will. However, early on, I try to save most conversation face to face. Last edited by persevere; 25th April at 2: I've been seeing someone who I've been dating for around three months, and we probably talk two times a week or so on the phone.
However, we see one another every weekend, and sometimes during the week. It sounds cynical well, it IS cynical but I used to call girls every day, but then I got into a long relationship with someone who eventually cheated on me.
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So now I treat everyone differently. Anyway, a couple of times a week is fine. Simply imagine that you have a hundred other amazing girls that are actively interested in you. This will help you from getting too hung up on that one girl and prevent you from texting her too much. Trying to have a serious conversation over text is exhausting and nobody likes doing it. When texting a girl, you instead want to focus on having fun and keeping it light.
Now, a great way to make sure you keep things light in your texts to girls is by using emoticons. As a result they help you avoid misunderstandings and unnecessary drama. If you want to get out of that mindset for good and become a master at texting girls, then you should be texting lots of women. Texting a lot of women will help that abundance mentality develop naturally.
Sometimes guys forget just why they are texting a girl. They get wrapped up in idle chit chat and completely lose track of the big picture. The big picture, of course, is to get the girl to meet up through text. See, the fun, playful texts like the one mentioned earlier still play a role. Fun texts are key to re-establishing that attraction which will make her want to meet up. But from there, remember that the purpose of your texts to a girl is to keep moving the interaction forward.
Therefore, your texts to women should be about building attraction and planning to meet-up. Take the Quiz now. Brian M - author of posts on The Art of Charm. Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same.
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Giving up too easily on your texts to a girl One mistake guys make when texting girls is giving up too easily. Texting a girl too much Nothing can kill attraction and ruin your chances of seeing a girl again quite like texting a girl too much. To avoid the common mistake guys make of sending a girl too many messages, here are a few simple rules for texting girls that will help you text a girl the right amount: Missing the big picture in your texts to women Sometimes guys forget just why they are texting a girl.